I had a CO in the early 90's who was a pretty decent guy. He was pretty laid back and never 'lorded' it over people. Never asked for reimbursements from the congregations. If we stopped for a break he would insist on paying. I don't recall him ever being an asshole.
The guy after him? AHAHAH totally the opposite. He forced his will on people. His wife was a cunt. She would cancel appointments with publishers because she had to do things like get her hair done. She would literally say, "I'm the CO's wife, so I can do this." Fuck her and fuck him. I hope they're both dead.